The will of God...

Concentrate on this Sentence  'To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did.'  When God takes something from your grasp, He's not punishing you, but merely opening your hands to receive something better.   Concentrate on this sentence... 'The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.'   There comes a point in your life when you realize:   Who matters, Who never did, Who won't anymore... And who always will. So, don't worry about people from your past, there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future.

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"Ek Dost ne Mujh se pucha,Tum sabko email bhejhte ho - tumhe kya milta hai ?
Maine hass kar kaha, Dena Lena to Vyaapar hai,Jo dekar kuch na mange, Wo hi to PYAR hai." - Swami Harryanand

NEUROLOGICAL SKILLS...

This one will keep you busy for a while  AND  could drive you crazy too!

TEST YOUR NEUROLOGICAL SKILLS...

 

 

CLICK THE DOG

 

10 Rules of Life

RECENTLY, THERE HAS BEEN a lot of hype about the Law of Attraction. People are writing about it as though it is something new, however this is not the case. The Law of Attraction and all other universal laws have existed since the beginning of time. The creation of all that is, our entire existence, is governed by subtle laws that exist in the universe. We cannot see them however we know that they are present. For example, we know that "what goes up must come down." This is a universal law. We also know that when we work with them, our thoughts and actions are aligned with divine flow and ease, and when we work against them, we create struggle and dis-ease. Thus, it only makes sense to familiarize ourselves with some of these laws when we are wanting to attract new people, places, things, and experiences into our lives. When we understand the innate nature of these laws, we become better at manifesting in our lives.

Here are 10 of the universal laws that you need to know to successfully manifest what you want in your life:

The Law of Abundance
When we create images of abundance in our lives, we attract this energy into our reality. Abundance does not only apply to money. We also long for an abundance of love, relationships, peace, harmony, opportunities, faith, success and much more.

Where are you longing for more abundance in your life?

The Law of Action
God works with us, not for us! We can be extremely gifted, talented, compassionate, deserving and so on, yet only action will materialize our wishes. Being a passive participant in our lives allows us to watch our life like a movie, whereas being an active participant allows us to star in the leading role.

Which role do you choose?

The Law of Divine Flow
Living in the moment, maintaining a state of love, being grateful, and serving others aligns us to the law of divine flow. In turn, we are more connected to ourselves, to others, to the universe, and to God. This deep sense of connection allows for more peace, love, grace, compassion, and synchronicity which is divine flow.

How can you create more flow in your life?

The Law of Economy
This law governs energy (matter) and energy always follows the line of least resistance. When we try to make things happen that are not in our highest good or the highest good of all, those actions are met with resistance (the Law of Economy). Spending energy trying to overcome resistance and universal laws as we attempt to manifest is wasted energy that could be spent where there is flow and receptivity. The more energy we save, the more we have to spend on things that truly matter.

Where do you need to shift the focus of your energy?

The Law of Expectation
Energy always follows our thoughts. When we expect bad things, bad things will happen. When we expect and believe in good things, good things will happen. Therefore, our thoughts always shape our experiences and expectations.

What thought patterns do you need to shift?

The Law of Good Will
When we manage the energy of our thoughts and actions, and create good thoughts and wishes for ourselves and others, we automatically create the energy of good will. The energy of good will, when understood by many, creates a collective consciousness of good will and has the ability to transmute the "ill will" of others. The more we strive to be in a state of good will and in alignment with this law, the more we will attract good will into our energy fields, which can cultivate the power manifestation and abundance in our lives.

How are you practicing good will in your life?

The Law of Grace
When we create good karma for ourselves, and focus outside of ourselves for the healing of others and Mother Earth, we implement the Law of Grace. This means that we might receive more than we have worked for or seemingly deserve allowing us to manifest even more of what we want in our lives.

How can you live a more graceful life?

The Law of Intention
Energy always follows intent. When we perform an act of kindness and our intention is to be recognized for our goodness, or we have a hidden agenda, we will not be rewarded through the universal Law of Grace. Intention and effort must be aligned in order to successfully manifest. When we intend to generate more money in our lives, and we reduce our spending on non-essentials and become more responsible with our money, we create more money. More importantly, when we demonstrate that we can handle more, the universe gives us more. This is the Law of Intention.

How can you improve the intentions that you are setting in your life?

The Law of Manifestation
When we think, visualize, and speak what we wish to manifest, as though it is already happening in our lives, we activate this law. Our manifestations need to be positively focused, emphasizing what we want to create, rather than what we do not want to create.

What do you wish to create in your life today?

The Law of Patience
Patience allows us to learn to more about ourselves, our values, and to practice faith and surrender to the universe. Through patience we learn to allow for divine timing and trust that everything that we hope to manifest is occurring in its own divine order. Following this law allows for successful manifestation.

Where do you need more patience in your life?

The Law of Three Requests
When we repeat what we are requesting of the universe three times, it activates the universal power of three and brings a stronger energy to what we intend to manifest. Often this accelerates this speed in which we attract what we have been requesting.

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"Ek Dost ne Mujh se pucha,Tum sabko email bhejhte ho - tumhe kya milta hai ?
Maine hass kar kaha, Dena Lena to Vyaapar hai,Jo dekar kuch na mange, Wo hi to PYAR hai." - Swami Harryanand

A Story without Words

 

The talent of some is absolutely amazing.

 

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HOW WAS THAT FOR A STORY?

"Ek Dost ne Mujh se pucha,Tum sabko email bhejhte ho - tumhe kya milta hai ?
Maine hass kar kaha, Dena Lena to Vyaapar hai,Jo dekar kuch na mange, Wo hi to PYAR hai." - Swami Harryanand

kala akshar bhains barabar

 

Life Cycle bottles

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Placement of words....

World's most beautiful sentence "but, I am with you" World's most painful sentence "I am with you, but..." Words are the same, where they are placed, matters a lot!!

Life Cycle - A Sum Total

3 Mischievous Old Grannys

Three mischievous old Grannies were sitting on a bench outside a nursing home When an old Grandpa walked by.  And one of the old Grandmas yelled out saying, "We bet we can tell exactly how old you are."  The old man said, "There is no way you can guess it, you old fools."  One of the old Grandmas said, "Sure we can!  Just drop your pants and under shorts and we can tell your exact age."  Embarrassed just a little, but anxious to prove they couldn't do it, he dropped his drawers.  The Grandmas asked him to first turn around a couple of times and to jump up and down several times. Then they all piped up and said,  "You're 87 years old!"  Standing with his pants down around his ankles, the old gent asked, "How in the world did you guess?"  Slapping their knees and grinning from ear to ear, the three old ladies happily yelled in unison...        "We were at your birthday party yesterday!"

Ignorance is "Ignoring to Change" & Intelligence is "Making the Change".

Girls Watch Out......

We had a girl to stay; her name was Virginia.
We called her Virgin for short, but not for long

What is Fashion Designing?
Too many brains working on too little clothes with too many ideas on how to cover two little areas.

What is the similarity between doing sex & doing surgery?
Skill is more important than the instrument.. .

What is Female Viagra ?
Jewellery

A football team loses their star player, Roger Dicks, due to an injury. Next day a headline reads: Team to play without Dicks.
The manager calls up the newspaper and objects, so the editor changes the headline. It reads: Team to play with Dicks out


How do you define a virgin?
On the Verge but not in!

What is the definition of a Lesbian?
Yet another Damm Woman trying to do a Man's job!!

Carrots, eggs, and coffee

Though it might be repeat for some but worth while....

A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee... You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her.  She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up..  She was tired of fighting and struggling.  It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen.  She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire.  Soon the pots came to boil.  In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans.  She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners.  She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl.  She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.  Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.  Turning to her daughter, she asked, ' Tell me what you see.'

'Carrots, eggs, and coffee,' she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots.  She did and noted that they were soft.  The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it.  After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee.  The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma.  The daughter then asked, 'What does it mean , mother?'

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity:  boiling water.  Each reacted differently.  The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting.  However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.  The egg had been fragile.  Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.  The ground coffee beans were unique, however.  After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

'Which are you?' she asked her daughter.  'When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond?  Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Think of this:  Which am I?  Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat?  Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff ?  Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean?  The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain.  When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor.  If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.  When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level?  How do you handle adversity?  Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make  you happy..

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.  The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.

Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

You might want to send this message to those people who mean something to you (I JUST DID); to those who have touched your life in one way or another; to those who make you smile when you really need it; to those who make you see the brighter side of things when you are really down; to those whose friendship you appreciate; to those who are so meaningful in your life.

May we all be COFFEE!!!!!! !

Soap dispenser

> Two priests are off to the showers late one night. They
> undress and step into the showers before they realize there
> is no soap. 
>
>  
>   
> Father John says he has soap in his room and goes to get
> it, not bothering to dress. He grabs two bars of soap, one
> in each hand, and heads back to the showers. 
>  
> He is halfway down the hall when he sees three nuns heading
> his way. Having no place to hide, he stands against the wall
> in the dim light and freezes like he's a statue. 
>
>  
> The nuns stop and comment on how life-like he looks. The
> first nun suddenly reaches out and pulls on his manhood.
> Startled, he drops a bar of soap "Oh look," says
> the first nun, "it's a soap dispenser". 
>
>  
> To test her theory the second nun also pulls on his
> manhood.... sure enough he drops the second bar of soap. 
> Now the third nun decides to have a go. She pulls once,
> then twice and three times but nothing happens. So she gives
> several more tugs, then yells, 
>
>  
> "Holy Mary, Mother of God - Hand Lotion, too!" 






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Ignorance is "Ignoring to Change" & Intelligence is "Making the Change"

North Korean Flying Trapeze

mindbogglin

http://www.freewebs.com/arun-sinha-7/transfer/North_Korean_Flying_Trapeze.wmv

Irish Golfer

A golfer playing in  Ireland hooked his drive into the woods. Looking for his ball, he found a little Leprechaun flat on his back, a big bump on his head and the golfer's ball beside him. Horrified, the golfer got his water bottle from the cart and poured it over the little guy, reviving him. 'Arrgh! What happened?' the Leprechaun asked. 'I'm afraid I hit you with my golf ball,' the golfer says. 'Oh, I see. Well, ye got me fair and square. Ye get three wishes, so whaddya want?' 'Thank God, you're all right!' the golfer answers in relief. 'I don't want anything, I'm just glad you're OK, and I apologize.' And the golfer walks off. 'What a nice guy,' the Leprechaun says to himself. I have to do something for him. I'll give him the three things I would want... a great golf game, all the money he ever needs, and a fantastic sex life.' A year goes by and the golfer is back. On the same hole, he again hits a bad drive into the woods and the Leprechaun is there waiting for him. 'Twas me that made ye hit the ball here,' the little guy says. 'I just want to ask ye, how's yer golf game?' 'My game is fantastic!' the golfer answers. I'm an internationally famous golfer now.' He adds, 'By the way, it's good to see you're all right.' 'Oh, I'm fine now, thankye. I did that fer yer golf game, you know. And tell me, how's yer money situation?' 'Why, it's just wonderful!' the golfer states. 'When I need cash, I just reach in my pocket and pull out $100.00 bills I didn't even know were there!' 'I did that fer ye also.' And tell me, how's yer sex life?' The golfer blushes, turns his head away in embarrassment, and says shyly, 'It's OK.' C'mon, c'mon now,' urged the Leprechaun, 'I'm wanting to know if I did a good job. How many times a week?' Blushing even more, the golfer looks around then whispers, 'Once, sometimes twice a week.' 'What??' responds the Leprechaun in shock. 'That's all? Only once or twice a week?' 'Well,' says the golfer, 'I figure that's not bad for a Catholic priest in a smallparish.'

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Ignorance is "Ignoring to Change" & Intelligence is "Making the Change".

Kitty Kitty Bang Bang

Widowed Jewish Lady at the Beach
 

A widowed Jewish lady, still in good shape, was sunbathing on a most deserted beach at Ft. Myers Florida. She looked up and noticed that a man her age, also in good shape, had walked up, placed his blanket on the sand near hers and began reading a book.  Smiling, she attempted to strike up a conversation with him.  "How are you today?"

"Fine, thank you," he responded, and turned back to his book.
 
"I love the beach.  Do you come here often?" she asked.

"First time since my wife passed away 2 years ago," he replied and turned back to his book..
 
"I'm sorry to hear that. My husband passed away three years ago and it is very lonely, she countered. "Do you live around here?" she asked.
 
"Yes, I live over in Cape Coral," he answered, and again he resumed reading.
 
Trying to find a topic of common interest, she persisted," Do you like pussy cats?"

With that, the man dropped his book, came over to her blanket, tore off her swimsuit and gave her the most passionate lovemaking of her life.

When the cloud of sand began to settle, she gasped and asked the man, "How did you know that was what I wanted?"
The man replied. "How did you know my name was Katz?"

6 Words that makes your resume suck -- excellent article

Hi Friends,

This article is part of a series called How to Write a Resume. To start this series from the beginning, read the introduction.

I've used a few bad words in my life. S$it, you probably have too. But when the wrong words appear on your resume, it sucks.

These sucky words are not of the four-letter variety. These words are common. They are accepted. They litter the average resume with buzzword badness. Hiring managers can identify sucky words in seconds, leaving your resume work worthless.

Resume Writing Series:
What is a Killer Resume? 10 Resume Do's 10 Resume Sins Resume Anatomy 6 Sucky Resume Words 6 Resume Action Words 8 Resume Keywords 3 Resume Formats Free Resume Examples Free Resume Template

So how do you write a wicked resume without the suck? How do you turn the wrong words into right? To help you land the job interview, here's how to spin the 6 sucky resume words into skills that sizzle.

1. Responsible For

My lips pucker and make sour sucking noises when I read "Responsible For" on a resume. Of course you're responsible for something. But how many? How long? Who? What? When? Rather than waste the hiring manager's time reading a vague list of responsibilities, be specific and use quantitative figures to back up your cited skills and accomplishments.

Employers want the numerical facts. Write percentages, dollar amounts, and numbers to best explain your accomplishments. Be specific to get the point across quickly. Prove you have the goods to get hired.

BAD

• Responsible for writing user guides on deadline.

GOOD

• Wrote six user guides for 15,000 users two weeks before deadline.

BAD

• Responsible for production costs.

GOOD

• Reduced production costs by 15 percent over three months.

The resume that avoids vague "responsibilities" and sticks to facts detailing figures, growth, reduced costs, number of people managed, budget size, sales, and revenue earned gets the job interview.

2. Experienced

Are you experienced? Sexy. Rather than cite Jimi Hendrix on your resume, pleeease just say what your experience entails. Saying you're experienced at something and giving the facts on that experience are two very different approaches.

BAD

• Experience programming in PHP.

GOOD

• Programmed an online shopping cart for a Fortune 500 company in PHP.

Hiring managers want to know what experience, skills, and qualifications you offer. Do tell them without saying, "I am experienced."

3. Excellent written communication skills

Yes, I realize this isn't a single word but rather a phrase. This phrase must die. It's on most resumes. Is it on yours?

BAD

• I have excellent written communication skills.

GOOD

• Wrote jargon-free online help documentation and reduced customer support calls by 50 percent.

If you've got writing skills, do say what you write and how you communicate. Are you writing email campaigns, marketing materials, or user documentation? Are you word smithing legal contracts, business plans, or proposing proposals? However you wrap your words, be sure to give the details.

4. Team Player

Are we playing baseball here? Unless you want to be benched with the other unemployed "team players" then get some hard facts behind your job pitch.

BAD

• Team player working well in large and small groups.

GOOD

• Worked with clients, software developers, technical writers, and interface designers to deliver financial reporting software three months before deadline.

If you want to hit a home run then do explicitly say what teams you play on and qualify the teams' achievements.

5. Detail Oriented

What does detail oriented mean? Give the specifics to the details with which you are oriented. Please, orient your reader to the details.

BAD

• Detail oriented public relations professional.

GOOD

• Wrote custom press releases targeting 25 news agencies across Europe.

If you have the details, do share them with the hiring manager. Give the facts, the numbers, the time lines, the dollar figure, the quantitative data that sells your skills and disorients the competition.

6. Successful

Hopefully you only list the successes on your resume. So if everything is a success, then why write the s-word? Stick to showing your success by giving concrete examples of what you've done to be successful! Let your skills, qualifications, and achievements speak for you.

BAD

• Successfully sold the product.

GOOD

• Increased sales of organic chocolate by 32 percent.

When it comes to your successes, please don't be shy. Boast your best, sing your praises, and sell your skills.

Final Words

There you have it. Six of the suckiest words (or phrases) commonly found on resumes today. By focusing on the facts, detailing the details, and qualifying your qualifications you may just land yourself the job interview.

There are soooo many sucky words found on resumes today. Got one to add? Do share the suck.

You have my word that you will not regret spending the two minutes needed to read this.

Go Kiss the World - Subroto Bagchi 

This speech was delivered to the Class of 2006 at the IIM, Bangalore on defining success by Subroto Bagchi CEO MindTree.  

I was the last child of a small-time government servant, in a family of five brothers. My earliest memory of my father is as that of a District Employment Officer in Koraput, Orissa. It was, and remains as back of beyond as you can imagine. There was no electricity; no primary school nearby and water did not flow out of a tap. As a result, I did not go to school until the age of eight; I was home-schooled. My father used to get transferred every year. The family belongings fit into the back of a jeep - so the family moved from place to place and without any trouble, my Mother would set up an establishment and get us going. Raised by a widow who had come as a refugee from the then East Bengal, she was a matriculate when she married my Father.    

My parents set the foundation of my life and the value system, which makes me what I am today and largely, defines what success means to me today.

As District Employment Officer, my father was given a jeep by the government. There was no garage in the Office, so the jeep was parked in our house. My father refused to use it to commute to the office. He told us that the jeep is an expensive resource given by the government- he reiterated to us that it was not "his jeep" but the government's jeep. Insisting that he would use it only to tour the interiors, he would walk to his office on normal days.. He also made sure that we never sat in the government jeep - we could sit in it only when it was stationary.

That was our early childhood lesson in governance - a lesson that corporate managers learn the hard way, some never do.

The driver of the jeep was treated with respect due to any other member of my Father's office. As small children, we were taught not to call him by his name. We had to use the suffix 'dada' whenever we were to refer to him in public or private. When I grew up to own a car and a driver by the name of Raju was appointed - I repeated the lesson to my two small daughters. They have, as a result, grown up to call Raju, 'Raju Uncle' - very different from many of their friends who refer to their family driver, as 'my driver'. When I hear that term from a school- or college-going person, I cringe.

To me, the lesson was significant - you treat small people with more respect than how you treat big people. It is more important to respect your subordinates than your superiors.

Our day used to start with the family huddling around my Mother's chulha - an earthen fire place she would build at each place of posting where she would cook for the family. There was neither gas, nor electrical stoves.The morning routine started with tea. As the brew was served, Father would ask us to read aloud the editorial page of The Statesman's 'muffosil' edition - delivered one day late. We did not understand much of what we were reading. But the ritual was meant for us to know that the world was larger than Koraput district and the English I speak today, despite having studied in an Oriya medium school, has to do with that routine. After reading the newspaper aloud, we were told to fold it neatly. Father taught us a simple lesson.

He used to say, "You should leave your newspaper and your toilet, the way you expect to find it". That lesson was about showing consideration to others. Business begins and ends with that simple precept.

Being small children, we were always enamored with advertisements in the newspaper for transistor radios - we did not have one. We saw other people having radios in their homes and each time there was an advertisement of Philips, Murphy or Bush radios, we would ask Father when we could get one. Each time, my Father would reply that we did not need one because he already had five radios - alluding to his five sons.

We also did not have a house of our own and would occasionally ask Father as to when, like others, we would live in our own house. He would give a similar reply," We do not need a house of our own. I already own five houses". His replies did not gladden our hearts in that instant.

Nonetheless, we learnt that it is important not to measure personal success and sense of well being through material possessions.

Government houses seldom came with fences. Mother and I collected twigs and built a small fence. After lunch, my Mother would never sleep. She would take her kitchen utensils and with those she and I would dig the rocky, white ant infested surrounding. We planted flowering bushes. The white ants destroyed them. My mother brought ash from her chulha and mixed it in the earth and we planted the seedlings all over again. This time, they bloomed. At that time, my father's transfer order came. A few neighbors told my mother why she was taking so much pain to beautify a government house, why she was planting seeds that would only benefit the next occupant. My mother replied that it did not matter to her that she would not see the flowers in full bloom. She said, "I have to create a bloom in a desert and whenever I am given a new place, I must leave it more beautiful than what I had inherited".

That was my first lesson in success. It is not about what you create for yourself, it is what you leave behind that defines success.

My mother began and galvanized the nation in to patriotic fervor. Other than reading out the newspaper to my mother, I had no clue about how I could be part of the action. So, after reading her the newspaper, every day I would land up near the University's water tank, which served the community. I would spend hours under it, imagining that there could be spies who would come to poison the water and I had to watch for them. I would daydream about catching one and how the next day, I would be featured in the newspaper. Unfortunately for me, the spies at war ignored the sleepy town of Bhubaneswar and I never got a chance to catch one in action.. Yet, that act unlocked my imagination.

Imagination is everything. If we can imagine a future, we can create it, if we can create that future, others will live in it. That is the essence of success.

Over the next few years, my mother's eyesight dimmed but in me she created a larger vision, a vision with which I continue to see the world and, I sense, through my eyes, she was seeing too. As the next few years unfolded, her vision deteriorated and she was operated for cataract. I remember, when she returned after her operation and she saw my face clearly for the first time, she was astonished. She said, "Oh my God, I did not know you were so fair".. I remain mighty pleased with that adulation even till date. Within weeks of getting her sight back, she developed a corneal ulcer and, overnight, became blind in
both eyes. That was 1969. She died in 2002. In all those 32 years of living with blindness, she never complained about her fate even once. Curious to know what she saw with blind eyes, I asked her once if she sees darkness. She replied, "No, I do not see darkness. I only see light even with my eyes closed".

Until she was eighty years of age, she did her morning yoga everyday, swept her own room and washed her own clothes.

To me, success is about the sense of independence; it is about not seeing the world but seeing the light.

Over the many intervening years, I grew up, studied, joined the industry and began to carve my life's own journey. I began my life as a clerk in a government office, went on to become a Management Trainee with the DCM group and eventually found my life's calling with the IT industry when fourth generation computers came to India in 1981.. Life took me places - I worked with outstanding people, challenging assignments and traveled all over the world.

In 1992, while I was posted in the US, I learnt that my father, living a retired life with my eldest brother, had suffered a third degree burn injury and was admitted in the Safderjung Hospital in Delhi. I flew back to attend to him - he remained for a few days in critical stage, bandaged from neck to toe.

The Safderjung Hospital is a cockroach infested, dirty, inhuman place. The overworked, under-resourced sisters in the burn ward are both victims and perpetrators of dehumanized life at its worst. One morning, while attending to my Father, I realized that the blood bottle was empty and fearing that air would go into his vein, I asked the attending nurse to change it. She bluntly told me to do it myself. In that horrible theater of death, I was in pain and frustration and anger. Finally when she relented and came, my Father opened his eyes and murmured to her, "Why have you not gone home yet?" Here was a man on his deathbed but more concerned about the overworked nurse than his own state. I was stunned at his stoic self.

There I learnt that there is no limit to how concerned you can be for another human being and what the limit of inclusion is you can create.

My father died the next day. He was a man whose success was defined by his principles, his frugality, his universalism and his sense of inclusion.

Above all, he taught me that success is your ability to rise above your discomfort, whatever may be your current state. You can, if you want, raise your consciousness above your immediate surroundings. Success is not about building material comforts - the transistor that he never could buy or the house that he never owned. His success was about the legacy he left, the memetic continuity of his ideals that grew beyond the smallness of a ill-paid, unrecognized government servant's world..

My father was a fervent believer in the British Raj. He sincerely doubted the capability of the post-independence Indian political parties to govern the country. To him, the lowering of the Union Jack was a sad event. My Mother was the exact opposite. When Subhash Bose quit the Indian National Congress and came to Dacca, my mother, then a schoolgirl, garlanded him. She learnt to spin khadi and joined an underground movement that trained her in using daggers and swords. Consequently, our household saw diversity in the political outlook of the two. On major issues concerning the world, the Old Man and the Old Lady had differing opinions.

In them, we learnt the power of disagreements, of dialogue and the essence of living with diversity in thinking.

Success is not about the ability to create a definitive dogmatic end state; it is about the unfolding of thought processes, of dialogue and continuum.

Two years back, at the age of eighty-two, Mother had a paralytic stroke and was lying in a government hospital in Bhubaneswar. I flew down from the US where I was serving my second stint, to see her. I spent two weeks with her in the hospital as she remained in a paralytic state. She was neither getting better nor moving on. Eventually I had to return to work. While leaving her behind, I kissed her face. In that paralytic state and a garbled voice, she said,

"Why are you kissing me, go kiss the world." Her river was nearing its journey, at the confluence of life and death, this woman who came to India as a refugee, raised by a widowed Mother, no more educated than high school, married to an anonymous government servant whose last salary was Rupees Three Hundred, robbed of her eyesight by fate and crowned by adversity was telling me to go and kiss the world!

Success to me is about Vision. It is the ability to rise above the immediacy of pain. It is about imagination. It is about sensitivity to small people. It is about building inclusion. It is about connectedness to a larger world existence. It is about personal tenacity. It is about giving back more to life than you take out of it. It is about creating extra-ordinary success with ordinary lives.

Thank you very much; I wish you good luck and God's speed. Go! kiss the world.        

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Ignorance is "Ignoring to Change" & Intelligence is "Making the Change".

Live like an Eagle

A repeat for some..

Our lives are not determined by what happens to us but by how we react to what happens,
Not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life.

A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes.

It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results.
Let's change to make a change!!!


"If you focus on results, you will never change.
If you focus on change, you will get results"

 

 
 

A Date !!!!!! Really good-Must read

Sending again to all the friends.... though its a repeat, but worth it.       date ! After 25  years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said I love you but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you. The other woman that my wife w anted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. "What's wrong, are you well," she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a sur prise invitation is a sign of bad news. "I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you," I responded. "Just the two of us." She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that very much." That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed t hat she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. "I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, "she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting". We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady.. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. "It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said. "Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation - nothing extraordinary, but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed. "How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered. A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I did to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son." At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I LOVE YOU!" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other time." ********** Pass this along to everyone with an aging parent, to a child, to an adult, to anyone with a parent. Here's hoping today is better than yesterday and tomorrow.

Research on Hosiery dresses

Dear,

 

Am doing research on ready to wear / ready to stitch hosiery dresses...pls pass ur comments.

Harry

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